Here’s the new thing about getting married?
Suddenly u answer questions about your happiness index.
Your first job, your getting admission in great college, ur achievement in anything in life is incomparable to the happiness you are supposed to achieve once you get married. Getting married is the epitome of happiness apparently.
How many times in the last few months I have drawn a blank face to the the question – ” now you are happy?”.
I was happy when I was single, I was happy when I was traveling, I was happy on so many other occasions. And on the scale of 1 to 10 on the happiness index, they all revolve around the same. Why then I was not asked this question on earlier occasions by some of the random relatives and people I came across in the course of getting married. I was suddenly connected with people I had not met or spoken to for years.
I am sure they all mean good.
Only thing which comes to my mind is-why is this the success parameter in our lives. Why is it that if we are not married, there is something wrong with us or we are unsuccessful in life. Look at all the other things one does and achieves in life.
Or is it that people around have been caught in this and are happy that you are not immune to the system and got caught in it finally. Gives them a sense of satisfaction. ( This is my dark side talking!). It’s almost like the society and the world around you has tamed you and made you one of them. Is that the satisfaction.
Some of the reasons:
- We are so happy you are now stable in life!! ( I was a cukoo in the head earlier apparently).
- Now you are on our side …. ( there there, Its about the number game to put more pressure on people who have not yet MARRIED!)
- Your parents ki tension katam hoi ( of course, considering some of you would be off their back now).
- You need companionship. ( This one i agree, I definitely don’t want to live my life alone as i go along but…. marriage does not assure you will have a companion, in my head. One can have companionship without getting married. Why do one need the tag).
So, people get married, then people get unhappy in marriages – there are fights and multiple other things. But people stick together because of children. society, family and live a compromised life. ( There are exceptions but a large number of people face this problem). Most people married question the lose of their freedom and things they did in the name of marriage.
Happiness in marriage
It’s a weird concept in my mind.
It’s great to live with someone but to have to go through the whole ‘tham jham’ , i fail to understand.
I understand being host to a good party and celebration (disconnected with this whole concept).:-)